Hello all! I went to the support group from the hospital I had my RNY done...and had not been for a long time. I felt the need to go and got "prodded" by my NP at my check up.

Wow...something really intersting came out of this. This may have been covered in past posts, and if so, please forgive the newbie...

Many of us there have lost "most" of our weight. Some of us have 40-50 to go to get to "ideal" weight. The thought that hit me was many of us - me included - could only focus on those darn last XXX pounds. Nevermind that I've lost 110, and "suzie" (not real name) has lost over 200...it's those last pounds we are focusing on - obsessing on.

Why is that? I know why for me :) it's because I want to "weigh" 140 lbs! I want that elusive number that I had 30 years ago for one day LOL remember the liquid protein diets? Well that's how I got to that magic number for less than 24 hours! shakes my head thinking about how i did that!

Once we plateau it gets hard to lose the remaing weight..and some of us regain some...I know I have...I'm losing the regained weight again...but i'm afriad that i will hit that damn plateau again and go no further....fear...the monster inside us...i was hoping my Doctor would cut him out when he took my stomach hummm...oh well.

I love this site, even if i am a lurker...and I have found something that is working...plus exercise...it's good to have the energy to do the exercise again..even if i hate going to the gym...i go...but i never said I would not go kicking and screaming!

Any ideas on why we obsess with those last pounds?????

Sebrina

Hi Sabrina!

Here are my thoughts on the subject!! Well, first off lets just say WOW, we had our surgeries a WEEK A PART!! HAHA...YOUR OLDER! lol..;

Anywho....I feel the same way sometimes but I dont really obsess over it. ESPECIALLY the numbers! WHY? Because I feel like I am a 49 year old woman....my body takes ALOT OF WORK and deterimination to lose still to this day! It was even hard for me to lose the original weight after wls. It did not fall off like alot of ppl. I had to WORK IT!! Was it easier than now? yes.

I agree with you and had my therapist a year or so tell me the same thing....instead of beating yourself up about NOT losing down to 130 or whatever number...focus on that you have kept over a 100 pounds OFF! THAT, really made me look at things differently and praise myself for STILL having the weight off after this many years!

We know to keep it off takes work...a lifestyle change. We each as individuals need to find out what works best for our lifestlyle and to keep the pounds coming off or at bay.

I think that after almost 4 years I have finally found my niche.....and have taken the regain off which thank got was only 14 lbs at the most and then i've lost more and continuing on.

It's a choice to be daily concious for me!! and BALANCING!!

I had MAJOR back surgery in 2005 and two rounds of plastic surgery this year alone....I've spent quite some time recovering and have to also remember that when I start to beat myself up.

But if we do what we need to do and if we fall off a bit....pick ourselves back up and move on....this too shall come!

As much as I'd like to say I want to weigh 140 lbs, I dont know that this is reasonable for me....but I carry on....and as long as the pounds stay at bay.......I will LOVE MYSELF UNCONDITIONALLY!!!

KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!

Julie aka: Sunshine

I wanted to weigh that number, because I wanted it. When I got it, I didn't like it and adjusted accordingly. Now that I've been "at goal" for more than a year, I find that I can FEEL when my weight isn't right. It's not the tight clothing, it's just an ability to move and feel free in my body, or whether I feel heavy and loggy, like I'm dragging through life. When I'm at my right weight, I feel better, freer, more that I am at home in my body.

In the beginning, it was about regaining my health. Period. Then, when I lost the weight, I wanted that number. Now it's about the joy of being. I don't know if anyone can relate to what I'm saying, but this is what has become true for me.

I can relate. I'm trying to get my body moving and I'm just starting the pouch test. That explanation is perfect. I've lost that job of moving. I've gained back 30 pounds. After loosing 100, I did two wellness bootcamp's with 90 min. a day activity.....I felt SOOOO good. I'm feeling slugish now. I've found you guys, and I am beginning the trek back.

This is such an insightful post for those of us who have yet to cross that hurdle of the dreaded last plateau. We all wish that we never go there but invariably we all do. I want to feel like Julie and remember how much I have put my body through over the years. If I plateau 20 or 30 pounds from where I want to be then I will just have to remember not to let it be an excuse to gain back weight that I don't want to have to lose again. I hope that I will have the strength to get to the end of my weight loss and move into maintainance successfully.

Sebrina, I think you should focus on the fact that you have found your way back and be proud of the progress you are making.