Hi Everyone,

I really appreciated all of the advice you gave in answer to my question!

I did tell Jesse about the surgery, explained it carefully, and I even showed him the hospital where I'll be having it. He seems to be getting more comfortable with the idea.

The other day we were sitting on the couch reading, (The Hardy Boys - The Tower Treasure!) and Jesse started to pat my stomach; I asked him what he was doing and he said...

"I'm just saying good-bye to your belly!"

And to that I say - AMEN - I'm saying good-bye to it, too!

Darien

Good for you...I was so worried about my son when I made this decision. It was the biggest consideration...he couldn't care less if I was heavy or not - just wanted his Mom to be okay...
I know this must have been tough for you - but children do better than us in so many ways. You will be giving him the gift of a Mom in good health - that is the best there is!

I too think that you made the right decision in telling him. Kids are so much smarter than we give them credit for and he would have figured something out in the long run and been hurt that you didn't trust him with the facts. That's just the way they see it. Plus, it is better that he knows the facts from you and not a version that would only serve to frighten him. Now, you can share the joy and he will understand the rough patches (hopefully they will be few) and he will be in awe of mom's success!

Darien - What a beautiful gift you have given your son: the gift of trust and honesty. You have done yourself proud and what a tender little angel he is. Things are going to be just fine.

Ohhhh that was a lovely story. It even made me say "Ooohhhh" out loud. Thank you!

My daughter is 18. She's my baby. Both she and her older brother are totally in support of the plan for WLS, just as is my dearest friend, my husband.

I'm blessed.

Darien,
I, too, think you did the right thing.

Kaye:

A sneak peek at our new LivingAfterWLS design theme! BEAUTIFUL!

Good move. Good mom. Good kid.

Sweet story Darien! In some ways, I think my daughter might miss who I used to
be just a little bit. It's what she knew. And she loved me most likely more than I
loved myself. But I'm learning to love myself too now and I know she appreciates that
and knowing that I'm likely to be here for her a lot longer because of the surgery.
Thanks for the story!

I told my nieces and nephews and even showed them the scar so that they knew they couldn't roughhouse like they were used to doing. They were great, got right in and helped with the gardens. My oldest nephew is so attuned to me now, I called and asked for some peppermint for my mom after her surgery and got - "Dude! You're allergic to that, no!" Gotta love 'em!