Hello Neighbors,
I am really felling like I made a mistake. Have any of you gone thru this? Does it get better?
I am never hungry and up until 3 weeks ago I thought I was one of the lucky ones, no side effects...Now I can't stand the look, smell or taste of food. I only get in about 2 bites and half the time it makes me sick. I'm sticking to plan and doing my best to get in my vitamins, protein, water...I belch constantly and fell like if this is the way it is going to be for the rest of my life, I don't want it.
I was fine the way I was before. I liked myself, I only wished I was healthier. I enjoyed food and I loved eating out. What did I do...Will I ever be normal again.
After surgery I grieved food for about 2 days and then the food cravings went away. Now on my way home from work I think about all the foods I used to eat either on my lunch or on the way home and I want them soooo bad! I'd give anything for a cheese fry...
Does this go away? Any advice?
Sorry to be a Negative Nelly...
Thank you so much for your support, although I don't post often I read the post all the time and find this neighbohood a God-send through my journey,
Terri

Terri, have you spoken to your doctor about the inability to eat? There could be a physical reason for this. I have to say that even though I had problems with eating for several months and found it hard to get the protein in, I have NEVER regretted the surgery. I sometimes think about the food I used to eat but the feeling of wanting it is pretty much over as soon as I think about it. I had some real trouble with nausea and suffered through it thinking it was normal and when I finally went to the doctor, I found out that I was taking too much iron and not enough B-1. Fixing this solved the nausea problem. I still don't have much of an appetite but I eat better and more properly now so perhaps an appointment at your WL Center might be the solution to your problem.

Terri,
I am so sorry you are feeling bad. Like Celadon, my first thought was that you should call your surgeon's office. Making sure there is or isn't a physical reason for your physical symptoms is very important.
As far as the psychological feeling that you want to eat all of your old foods, have you considered a talk w/ a therapist? Sometimes we need to work through stuff w/ someone who can be more objective.
Don't give up. No, what you are feeling is not how it will always be. You did something to get healthy. Don't give up on it. Keep trying & seek the help you need for this to be a positive experience.
I wish you all the best as you work through this.

Terri,
It keeps getting better. It is common to grieve. And healthy you realize you are
in that space. Your goal for better health is a common thread among us. When we choose
WLS, we can't begin to comprehend what will be required of us. Like choosing to have
children.. we learn to rise to the challenge as we go. Would we turn back?... most of us, not.
So, I encourage you, Terri, to be hopeful and patient. As time goes on, post often and
read back posts from others. We care about your opinion & your journey, whatever
direction that may take. You are not alone.

Terri,

Thank you for being an HONEST Nelly! Truth isn't negative. It's just the truth. Are you able to hold down water? Do you throw up the 2 bites that you eat? Are you having lots of cases of foamies when you eat?

You may be experiencing a blockage of some kind... I hate to get too personal, but how are your bm's?

I think that what's going on is that you're no longer grieving for food, but you're grieving for the way you used to relate to food. Your mind is saying food is no longer my joy, and it's just fuel and I hate that and I don't want to play anymore. In other words, you've settled in to the WORK part of the journey.

If nothing is wrong with your plumbing that is. It's hard for me to tell you that this will pass and that you will have a BETTER relationship with food in the future because I don't know if this is a case of your stoma having a stricture or you have a kink in your intestine or something. So I hope that you will think about the questions I pose above and if you are having physical troubles taking food in, keeping food in, or getting food out, you'll call your doctor.

If nothing is physically wrong, then I can ASSURE you that this phase will pass. I've been through it too. It doesn't last long.

hugs & fingers crossed...

Ahh, this all too familiar to me. 6 days after my surgery. I sat on the toilet and cried. What had I done, and I sobbed. I cried the next day too. I was having trouble getting in 3 protein shakes, water and my vitamins. I was a mess. it took me forever to eat solid food and not have a problem. I think around the 4 month post-op, my body started to get it and things fell into place. By month 6 month. I could eat solid food. However, I had the foamies up until month 9. And even know it happens. Sometimes, I throw up. Super fun. There were many nights, I ate 2 TBSP. to foam it up.


It is very frustrating. I hated it, I felt subhuman. As things feel into place, I felt more human. It just takes time. WLS is a lifelong journey. Nothing happens over night. What works food wise one day, might not the next. WLS is like a roller coaster, lots of loops and turns and steep hills and dips. Take it moment by moment. I PROMISE YOU THAT IS DOES GET BETTER. And the results will be well worth it. Give it time. 7 weeks is still very early. Also, it never hurts to put a call into your doctor and discuss what you are experiencing.


Hugs to you my sistah!