Hey Everyone,

I'm just past 3 months out and I think doing pretty well. Have lost 52 lbs. But I'm wondering when will this dark cloud hanging around me lift? What do you all do since you can't "stuff it" anymore? I have an average amount of frustration in life and some pain that will be cured with hip surgery the end of February. But I don't like my irritability. (My sainted husband probably doesn't like it much either.) I've never been this way before.

Taking a walk is about 6 weeks away for me, but I'm looking forward to the good old days when I wake up and think - Wow this is going to be a good day. Anyone else in my world?

Rosalie

Hi, Ro!

Glad to see you did get this thread started.

I have been pretty edgy, too, but I thought it was because I am worried that DH may be showing early signs of Alzheimer's Disease. I am getting so upset w/ him when he gets confused or makes a mess & leaves it for someone else (read "me") to clean up (not his normal behavior).... I talk to myself about it in a grumbling way & then my 16 11/12 yr old thinks I'm being mean to his dad & he gets upset w/ me. Sometimes I feel like I'm PMSing, but they doesn't happen anymore. I don't know if you can still be that same kind of hormonal after a hysterectomy or not. I also had a couple weeks lately where I felt very depressed.

Maybe it's the barometric pressure in SW Ohio! LOL

Someone suggested having a code word in the family so if you're losing control and they can see it they call out the code word so you know it is happening. At least, then, you could go to an area of the house where you won't bother anyone.

I'm just thankful for a wonderful husband who puts up with my crapola!

I have no great words of wisdom, but I wanted to let you know I care!
Hang in there!
Darien

Rosalie,
This is a very important topic. First off, you're doing a great job with the weight loss. But I can understand exactly what you're saying about now how to handle things that you used to eat over.

One good thing to do is to vent here (or somewhere). I used to write stuff down. Terrible stuff that I wanted to say but knew I shouldn't. I would save it up until I had a big ugly bag of it. Then I'd burn it and beat my "war drum" while doing it. Very satisfying. More satisfying than eating over it ever was! Try it and let us know how it goes for you.

BTW: "War Drum" for me can be anything that can makes a noise that can be heard.

Good luck dealing with the anger. Don't try to hold it in, it'll hurt your health.

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Rosalie

Well i was the code word person it really helps. Your husband can just say honey ( Butterfly) and you will realise your being a tad cranky. I had days when i knew i was getting anal and had NO idea why but i just wanted to be. I notice a huge difference if I'm not eating correctly or am not getting all my vitamins AND B12. My wife has commented I'm much nicer now that i am on the 5 day pouch test or as my son calls is ( Pouch Rehabilitation ). You really need to get a handle on the stuff it mind set or you will be really mad in a year when you 50 pounds UP. I had a horrible year with a 18 yr old daughter and every time she would come home i was jamming it in as fast as i could. It took me most of the year to see i had went back to OLD habits.

Just remember when your ready to rip the head off a loved one. We made the choice to give up some stuff to have a better life. I use to have ulcers and i came up with a easy fix. Ask your self this question. Can being mad and stressing over this change anything. If the answer is NO then move on.

Best of luck you will make it and be just fine everything good in life we have to work for :)

Oh Adam...I love "pouch rehab"!!! Your son gets the coveted "Brilliant Award" for that one!

GrandmaRo...I didn't go through this, but am quite familiar with PMS snippies. Regarding the "stuffing"...I only allow myself to snack on low sugar protein bars. So, if I want to "stuff", that is my ONLY option. After one, I'm pretty grossed out. The most damage that is done is about 200 calories (way better than an entire sleeve of saltine crackers!). Mentally, I feel better because I stayed within my set rules and therefore remained in control. When I give in to the cravings, I feel double sickly...physically and mentally for failing. You don't have to fail.

Hugs and support to you!

You have my prayers for peace in the storm!! God bless you.

GMRO...I started journaling my emotions...just to be able to vent somewhere....ummm and maybe this would be a good place to remember that you have been through some major changes (your body and mind both) and you are in the process of another Major change (hip surgery) this can cause a possible chemical depression...if journaling and venting to yourself (ie, Sandi's drum...lol) doesn't help, you may consider talking to your dr about "possibly" needing an anti-depressant....it would not be that unusual for this to be a need from what I understand.

I know that within the first 1 1/2 yrs post op I lost over 180lbs, BOTH my grandmother and grandfather (my dad's parents) died plus I had to have 2 surgeries and we bought a house....needless to say I needed meds...and for the first time EVER they actually helped me....not saying they will you but it could be a possibility. Also, give yourself a break, if you are in a lot of pain and still trying to function plus all the changes your body is going through it's quite a shock to the system, give yourself time and space to vent and hash through your emotions...

Hoping only the best for you! Blessings!!!! And lots of hugs!!!

Thanks for the ideas and advice everyone! I knew you would have lots!! Not being the only one is certainly part of it!! Code words, journals, talking to my PCP about meds all are wonderful suggestions!!

Adam, thanks for the "Can being mad & stressing over this change anything" are words to live by. Gonna print that up and put it on my bulletin board.

Jeanie - sorry to hear about DH!

Thanks EVERYONE for the hugs and prayers!
Like Ellen DeGeneres says on her show "Back at ya"

Rosalie

Thanks for the ideas and advice everyone! I knew you would have lots!! Not being the only one is certainly part of it!! Code words, journals, talking to my PCP about meds all are wonderful suggestions!!

Adam, thanks for the "Can being mad & stressing over this change anything" are words to live by. Gonna print that up and put it on my bulletin board.

Thanks for the hugs and prayers! Like Ellen DeGeneres says on her show "Back at ya"